Are you Committed or Do you need to be Committed?

It's funny – the most ordinary situations create new perspectives.  I was speaking to a gentleman coming up in his career during a holiday celebration and this individual was clearly frustrated with his job.  The mental exhaustion and the general malaise primed me to ask “are you committed or do you need to be committed”?  Commitment and willpower are two powerful elements that are often elusive if the emotional dynamic is not there.  There was still a general sense of confusion from this individual on “when should I get myself focused for the day ahead”?

The “time is now”, bringing energy and initiative to your roles* every day show commitment. Caring more about your role and behaviors will show in the results you produce. Showing commitment can demonstrate your leadership potential to key influencers and lead to career opportunities. 

(* all of us have different and multiple roles throughout our lives, father, spouse, professional, artist, athlete, etc. – this applies to every role)

 

The primary source and ongoing frustration of this individual – How can you keep yourself and others motivated when peers commitments wane?

 

The simple answer is that “do whatever you do, but professionals need to take personal responsibility for their own actions and results”. The market is in a state of constant disruption, placing additional demands on the business that spreads throughout the entire organization. Keeping yourself and your peers motivated can show your commitment to the overall challenges and increased demands of your business. It can be challenging keeping up high performance standards when your co-workers’ commitment to their jobs fades. 

Consider these two elements to bolster commitment:

1. Putting People and Customers First - Striving for customer satisfaction shows your commitment to your employer’s objectives. Even if your job doesn’t involve interacting with clients directly, your role is contributing to the objectives in keeping your organization’s client base satisfied and growing. Handling every task with the idea fresh in your mind that your work impacts client, performance and ultimately your potential may also boost your pride in your work and lead to improved job performance.
2. Self motivation - Encouraging yourself to develop new skills, improve operations and process or take new risks to advance the business can awaken new levels of commitment. You own your success.
3. Collaboration & Teamwork – The concepts of reliability and trust are a much deeper issue and are the essential underpinnings of any successful team. Making significant contributions to any group task shows commitment to your group, team and organization. Displaying confidence in your ideas, skills and solutions is a trait that many organizations value. Being reliable shows commitment to your team’s objectives and an understanding of the part you play in a bigger picture. Taking on any form of leadership roles and organizing team members to cooperate with each other, or collaborate with other groups, shows a commitment to big picture achievement.

 

Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek.

Wild thing

Birthdays are great opportunities to recalibrate your goals and objectives. I have heard the common, "what's wrong with you and when do you sleep, as well as, "I have to get up at 3:30AM just to get a jump start on you". Energy, ideas and persistence is what matters - You never can run out of energy if you commit yourself fully.

Most of what society says is not to go for it, but to be safe so you can be comfortable. What is odd is that many people are uncomfortable and set goals to change that condition. I think of a poem entitled Self Pity, by D.H. Lawrence

Self-pity

I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself. 

While quoting D.H. Lawrence sounds incredibly pretentious it is meant to illustrate perceptions of motivation. The most valuable asset you have is not money it is your mindset and drive and various methods and creativity for achieving your goals and objectives.

There is no limit to action - Attack your goals ruthlessly.

There is no failure unless you quit - there is no shortage of ideas.

If you are not creating new problems for yourself you are not growing or moving forward. Find your passion! 

Mirror Mirror on the Wall - Memoirs from the Land of Make Believe

You cannot talk someone out of their perception; you can only listen, understand and then behave yourself into their new perception.

A recent discussion held with a former colleague spurred the ever present concept of personal branding, but more in the context of changing perceptions.  The fundamental element in changing perceptions is the search in understanding yourself and the perceptions of others. Most people do not want to accept the negative or constructive perceptions of their own brand.  This is exactly what transpired with the former colleague I had the discussion with over the last month but finally have gone past the life is not fair and asking for the scrapbook of photos and memories from the land of make believe.

When I tried to have conversations with this individual about behavior, there was zero acceptance of personal responsibility. It becomes instantaneously defensive and goes immediately into the “I am being judged and it is someone else’s problem, not mine”.  What is ironic is that in the management consulting profession it is a constant give and take in dealing with change, perceptions and different personalities.  The type of constructive criticism is meant to help to understand actions, but these types of individuals believe that these criticisms are meant to undermine their own actions. 

Trust and perception go hand-in-hand and I am sure you have all heard phases like; "You have to walk the talk," "Actions speak louder than words," or "They talk a good game." And I know that you are as tired of them as I am. But there is wisdom in these phases no matter how much we hate to hear them.

Issues do arise after we make promises to others. Most people understand this. They tend to judge individuals on how they handle these issues.

For some reason we believe that explanations will get us out of trouble. We would much rather justify our actions instead of understanding how our actions affected others from their point of view of the other parties involved.  

The only way to change someone's perception of you and your work is to change your behavior.

I know that sounds hard but really the main behavior you need to change is how you respond to issues and complaints. Listening to the constructive and negative comments to understand their point of view is the most important thing you can do. But listening is not enough. You then need to incorporate what you have learned. Granted you may not agree with their perception of the situation. Agreeing is not the point. Knowing what their perception is and how you have caused that perception is the point. Now you can do things differently if you want to change perceptions.

My former colleague and I came to a level ground where she understood this dynamic, but it was hard for her to reprogram herself overnight – and this is where I completely agree. Perceptions change over time. You cannot change someone's perception with one act. Therefore, overcoming your history will take time. This is not only important but crucial to your future success.

Will it be easy, of course not, but the benefits will outweigh the costs. 

1. If you want people to trust you then show that you are trustworthy - it is that simple. 

2. If you want people to talk to you, then show them that you care. 

3. If you want your people to bring you ideas and concerns, then listen and recognize their efforts. 

You cannot talk someone out of their perception; you can only listen, understand and then behave yourself into their new perception.

Brand New Day, Brand New Way

People have been asking what the first post was and why I posted. The blog was designed to address insights into the topic of personal branding through inquiries, existing relationships at work and in my personal life.

Many of the discussions that I have on this topic deal with work in standing out and getting noticed through the blur of activity.  The person you are in the office and the authentic self you are in the rest of your life are one in the same. The images and impressions you make in all contexts of your life relate to your personal brand.  As we march through the stages of life we need to be cognizant of those elements that are authentic to ourselves.

Breakthrough and Attack Your Goals

Breakthrough is about your personal potential and living the life you not only want, but ultimately need.  Standing out of the shadows and building upon the person you are today and who you will become.  Your personal brand is similar to that of the products and services you consume, use and love.  Every interaction you have either builds, maintains or erodes your personal brand.  I say interaction as it could relate to the people you meet, your thoughts and actions.

We spend most of our time externally ruminating over the “how-to” address the daily challenges and opportunities we face life.  The speed in which you address these challenges and opportunities is often valued more than the quality of your actions. Your actions are critical Very few people ask the question why, often hiding in the shadows or process and prescribed emotions. 

There is no magic bullet, algorithm or solution it requires time and a personal investment to truly understand yourself and who you want to become. It is about focus and goals - What does it mean to you personally of going all in? There is no limit to action - Attack your goals ruthlessly.

Attitude is the key to everything you do both personally and professionally.  We are often overwhelmed by the time, so speed takes over.  There is a natural comfort in being busy as we can delay and ignore the critical elements that will feed our personal brand, passion and goals.

This is the time to stand out, step out of the shadows by going within, quieting the mind asking the questions to ultimately shine.  Take stock in identifying who you are and what you need to assess your personal brand. Getting started should focus on who you are now and who you would like to be.  This requires introspection and basic questions – What’s working in my life and what’s not? What do I want or need? What’s best for me to focus on now?

The question I ask on a daily basis is “how can I breakthrough the static” and achieve my personal best – my brand? Find your passion in every role your have and demand more of yourself to maintain that passion.

48 Hour Principle – Focused Personal Productivity

Mental preparation is a broad topic within the arena of sports psychology – people use the term “pre-game” to adjust their mindset. The purpose of daily mental preparation is to create a mindset that lets you consistently perform up to your capabilities and talents in competition. Preparation requires discipline and a small amount of time at the end of each day.

 

Learn to start thinking more about how you shape your personal effectiveness through small adjustments in your daily or weekly planning.

 

Mindset and attitude are critical elements for defining and acting upon the future vision of your personal brand. The challenge more often than not is the consistency of your actions in realizing this vision in the near-term. I have discussed how we embrace speed as a driver to perceived productivity, versus getting quiet and focusing on what is needed to accomplish your activities and goals.

 

Many of us dive right into the weekend shedding the activities of the prior week only to come to the paralysis of Sunday night paralysis staring at a anxiety ridden schedule for the week – I once knew someone who characterized this as Sunday Night Syndrome. Instead of being frozen with the myriad of tasks, simply question; what do I need to do this week and how can I get my head around it?

 

Write it down

 

At the beginning or the end of each workday, schedule time for you to think…yes to think. Reflect on the day and plan your actions for the next day and the day after that. After a few days, you will be able to identify issues by examining patterns based on your own reflections.

• First focus on the activities you set forth to accomplish today or this week – what was accomplished?
• Then focus on progress and challenges and think about specific events and activities that cultivate, maintain or erode your personal brand or effectiveness. Write them down

• Which 1 or 2 events today indicated either a small win or a possible breakthrough? (Describe briefly.)
• Which 1 or 2 events today indicated either a small setback, erosion or a possible crisis? (Describe briefly.)
• Finally, prioritize for action. The action plan for the next day is the most important part of your daily review: What is the one thing you can do to best facilitate progress tomorrow?

• Outline activities you need to accomplish tomorrow – consider using the 48-hour rule working on tasks that are due in 48-hours.

 

Building consistency is critical not only for your personal effectiveness, but for shaping your personal brand. Take time every day to think – so much of what we do is in accordance to how feel, start thinking and you will see a big difference in how things you work on personally and professionally relate to each other.

How do you prepare yourself mentally and what rituals create a steady focus in your activities?

 

Personal Brand – Attitude is Everything

Attitude is everything in how you shape your character and personal brand.  How does your personal brand impact the organization, individuals and yourself?  Discover your own potential for leadership. There is so much literature on branding, brand you and other aspects of personal branding out in the web sphere, but I recently found one statement that clearly articulates personal branding in one sentence. I found the biography of Margaret Thatcher interesting in her development as an individual and leader.  One of her many quotes relate to your personal brand and your attitude.

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become”.

I have used the statement moving from “complaint to commitment”,  throughout my career and for also self motivation. So much of today’s business climate and corporate culture is based on who care more about feelings than they do about attitude, thoughts and ideas.  Create a learning environment that moves past mediocrity and focuses on the commitment of thinking, new ideas and positivity. 

When You Can Control or Influence the Negativity

When you can control or influence the situation, use a systematic problem-solving process with the affected employees to improve the identified areas of negativity or complaint. Do this as quickly as you can to determine that negativity exists.

·         Identify any aspects of the situation that you can impact including providing feedback in your organization about the negative impact that is occurring. Sometimes you can influence an issue or a decision if you practice personal, professional courage and speak your mind.

·         Listen, listen, listen. Often people just need a sounding board. Be visible and available to people. Proactively schedule and engage people.

·         Challenge pessimistic thinking and negative beliefs about people, the organization, and the work area. Don't let negative, false statements go unchallenged. If the statements are true, provide the rationale, the corporate thinking, and the events that are responsible for the negative circumstances. Share everything you know about a situation to build trust with the workforce – take the emotion out and drive with facts.

·         Ask open-ended questions to determine the cause, and the scope of the negative feelings or reaction. Maybe it's not as bad as people think; maybe their interpretation of events is faulty. Helping people identify exactly what they feel negatively about is the first step in solving the problem. You can't solve a fog of unhappiness. Help people create options, feel included, and feel part of the communication and problem solving.  

If the negativity emanates from an individual, as a manager or performance leader you can:

·         Inform the employee about the negative impact their negativity is having on co-workers and the department.

·         Take the emotion out of it and use fact - use specific examples that describe behaviors the employee can do something about.

·         Avoid becoming defensive. Don’t take the employee’s negative words or attitude personally.

·         Focus on creating solutions. Don’t focus on everything that is wrong and negative; focus instead on creative options for positive morale. If the person is unwilling to hold this discussion, and you feel you have fairly heard her out, end the discussion.

·         Focus on the positive aspects and contributions the individual brings to the work setting, not the negativity. Help the employee build their self-image and capacity to contribute.

How is your Personal Brand contributing - Recognize Your Potential Part in the Negativity Cycle

·         Know yourself well enough to recognize internally when you are becoming negative.

·         Become aware of work situations in which you typically find yourself becoming defensive or negative. Because you are aware of them, try to recognize when you are reacting and avoid your typical negative reaction.  

·         Take a time-out or walk away by yourself when you have dealt with a stressful situation.

·         Spend some time alone thinking every day about the positive aspects of your work and life. You don't want to spend all of your time focused on negative thinking. If there is nothing positive to think about, examine the life and the brand you are choosing to create.

·         Learn to grow and create a learning environment. Focus on the big picture; don't get bogged down in the day-to-day.

As I have stated in other posts, “control is an illusion”. Recognize that the only thing you are truly in charge of is how you choose to react to and in any situation.  How are you going to breakthrough the clutter of negativity and let your personal brand shine with optimism?

Swan Dive into Commitment - 8 Simple Principles

The advantage of a small pond or big pond does not depend on size of the fish, but rather the tenacity and agility of the fish. Most of the time, I’d argue it is better to be a small fish in a big pond. There are a myriad of different reasons, but was reminded of this yesterday, when playing when competing against the best, you learn more, you get tougher and you are forced to keep improving and never rest on your laurels.

 

Always keep on exploring and testing your own personal boundaries. Consider whether there are any activities in life where if you chose a less crowded approach, where you up your game. The fish I was referencing before does not get tenacious by resting on its laurels.  Once you start doing that, game over, people are already surpassing you.

 

You want to mass so many advantages in your favor that, when time comes, when the opportunity presents itself, you can’t help but win. By incrementally improving various elements of yourself and your position, you can dramatically enhance your chances of success in whatever you’re trying to do.

Think about what you can start doing tomorrow to up your game.  What are you committed to do differently?

 

1. Commitment – How serious are you reaching this goal? Are you willing to do whatever is necessary to get the job done? A strong commitment is a powerful advantage.

2. Focus - Do you know exactly what you want or is it a more vague idea? Will you get distracted about other shiny objects? The clearer you are on exactly what you’re trying to achieve, the better.

3. Depth – How much do you know about this area of endeavor? A deep level of knowledge and experience is a huge advantage against common/foolish mistakes and ignorant plebes

4. Rationale – Are you fully aware of the situation that you’re operating in? The more you understand the landscape, the more effective you’ll be and the less likely you’ll be out maneuvered.

5. Team - Do you have the respect and trust of people who could help you get the job done? Start building relationships with key players before you need them.

6. Horizon Planning – Are you making your moves at the right time and with the right speed? Sometimes being patient is critical, while other times overwhelming velocity is the way to go.

7. Assets - Do you have the right tools & adequate funding to make this happen? The more you have on hand and the more you can obtain quickly/easily, the better.

8. Reset – What’s your backup plan if your approach fails? There is great advantage to being able to quickly & easily regroup and try again?

What are you going to do today?